What do YOU do to sabotage your goals?

What do YOU do to sabotage your goals?

Yesterday, I felt a little unmotivated. Yes, I know...your surprised! ;-)

Believe it or not...I'm not always in a good mood or feeling like the energiser bunny.
In fact yesterday I felt pretty Mehhhhh...tired, lethargic and very unmotivated.

I contemplated doing some work and after a morning of torturing myself with lots of procrastination and self afflicted guilt I finally gave up and made the decision - it being Sunday anyhow - I would give my mind and my conscience a break.... So I went to Glendalough (yea I know..again! lol I just love it there).

Anyhow, while walking I contemplated life - as you do :-) I switched off my 'conscious' mind from searching for answers and thanks to my 'unconscious' continuing to work for me and the beauty of being outdoors I soon came to the following conclusions.
 

 

If we want more Motivation then you have to get rid of the following!

1) No Appreciation

Imagine what your life would be like if you felt constantly grateful.
What would be different?
What would change?
Put yourself right now into a state of gratitude and feel what is different in your body.
Notice your posture, energy and focus. Has its direction shifted??
If you really did this then I am guessing it has.

This is not wishy washy whimsical jargon. This is practical, real help.
The more you practice daily gratitude the more motivated you will feel. Gratitude is closely linked with motivation and will spur you onto greater things.

Make a list every day of what you are grateful for and bring it to mind often.
Soon you will have cultivated a new habit, a way of constantly looking for the good stuff.
When you do this you will find yourself in another new and much more beautiful world and you will feel much more excited to be here and keen to experience all it has to offer.

Make sure you are LIVING!
More on this here...http://www.neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/2013/04/your-extinct-already.html
  

2) Too much Overwhelm
 

Okay...you wake up and while you lie there in bed ALL the things you need to do and ALL the stuff that you want to change rattles around in your head.

There is just SO MUCH! How will you ever get it ALL done?!

Its an impossible feat! RIght?......So instead, what do you do?....

Roll over and feel sorry for yourself or waste half the day surfing the net and then the rest of the day feeling guilty about this!
Sound familiar??

Instead I recommend the following -

* Simplify your goals - Simply pick one first - the easiest and go after that one.
* Plan - Write up a list of easy, manageable goals and visualise having achieved them.
* Organize your life - Tidy up, de clutter and Prime it with positive stuff.
Read more on Priming here...
http://neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/2014/09/600-steps-6-tips-to-perform-better.html
  

3) No Purpose

Our Motivation used to be driven in pre historic times by the need to survive but generally for us lucky folk (able to sit and read a computer screen) now days, our problems are 1st world problems.

This means we don't have the tiger at our heels any longer, so our drive has changed. We don't have to struggle and hunt for food and our 'need' has become 'lost' somewhat. Were no longer sure what our purpose is, what our reason for being is, hence often a lack of drive.

So what can you do to find this drive??
 

* Find your Purpose and meaning in life -

* Ask artful questions that get you focusing in a better direction.
How can I be better?
How can I provide more value for others?
Once you stop focusing internally and start to focus on others it will ironically fuel you more and give your life more meaning and purpose.

Enjoy the journey and the work.

Enjoy the state of flow and simply the act of doing.

Live in the now!
Just like I often say you cannot find happiness for it is not a 'thing' - happiness is a state of mind.
Read this here...
http://www.neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/2014/09/have-you-got-goose-pimples-today.html

The same is true for 'finding' meaning. Stop 'searching' for it and instead create it!
Create moments, events and daily occurrences that create meaning in your life and you will jump out of bed much more with excitement at the day in hand.
 

4) No Map

Without a map how do you know where to go....and with the wrong map where will you end up??

By now, if you have been following my blogs, you will have heard me saying 'The Map is not the Territory'. This means that what we perceive as reality is not always in fact reality.
More on seeing the world differently here...
http://www.neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/2012/08/are-our-boundarys-real-imagined-or.html

So how does this help you?

Well, if you know that what you are perceiving is not necessarily real then you also know there is a possible new way of looking at something.

Always ask good questions if you are feeling unmotivated.
Listen to your thoughts in your head and notice what you are saying.
Look out for RED Alerts! Any generalisation, distortion or deletion you make!
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Notice if you are Imagining beneficially! Are you thinking something negative or positive?
Which is more motivating? Start to imagine how fantastic it will be when you achieve this goal.
Link more pleasure with it and it will become more enticing to do!
Take action and DO something.
Inaction will simply be killed by doing something!

Literally take one step forward!
Put on those running shoes, pick up that pen, switch on the computer, etc!

Start with something small today and notice how your motivation increases.
 Most of all remember you are in control of the choices you make.
 
Choose to be kind to yourself and appreciate how special and unique you are.
 
Now make it your purpose to give back a little of that to the rest of the world.
I for one want to hear what happens ;-)

Love Danielle x
Your Mind Coach
'Change your Mind and Change your Life!'
http://www.theblackbeltmastermind.com

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Have you got goose-pimples today?

Don't be part of the flock!!!

Today, I just read a very special email from a wonderful person. He has finally got it and has made the decision to go and really LIVE his life! He has decided to be happy and so therefore I am feeling happy!

People often ask me.... am I always happy?

They seem to ponder and sometimes presume that because this is what I strive to help people with - 'feeling happier'- that this means that I have ultimately 'found' this illusive golden state and constantly reside within it! Is this the case? Not exactly.

Happiness is not a physical thing we can possess and its not a verb, its an adjective!

We 'DO' happiness but often people forget this and instead wait for it to somehow magically land in our lap one morning. My bet is that since you are reading this, then you are a thinking outside the box, have stepped away from the flock and this illusive myth and are actively looking for a more productive and pragmatic approach.

For us to experience happiness we need to DO things happily! Makes sense!

If I HAD happiness and possessed it, this means I could loose it, right? Not so good.

Luckily for us, I can CHOOSE to feel happy whenever I want by the act of DOING it.

This gives me control.


Do I feel happy all the time? Hell no! I would be a little crazy, right?


ALL our emotions are there for a reason, to help guide us. Just like we need fear to warn us of possible danger, we also need sadness so as to experience joy.

There can be no light without shadow.

What I 'Do' is to plan to feel happy by planning how I will do it!

Just like feeling unhappy is also a plan. You see....
Failure takes adequate planning.

If you always plan how your days are going to be the same and miserable then you will have more of that. If instead you plan for how you will feel happy then you will get more of that! Simple!

Get more of what you focus on! Right!

For you to experience more happiness, I respectfully suggest you DO this also, it REALLY helped me! I chose to make sure that everyday I would experience things that made me feel happy.
Like walking in nature, petting my doggie and eating good cake!

Read more here on how to see the world differently
http://neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/2012/08/are-our-boundarys-real-imagined-or.html

As well as this, DO things daily that cause you to feel fulfilled and make your heart pump with passion. DO things that make a difference. Help the next person you meet for no good reason except that he/she is a special human being just like you!

Make their day and I PROMISE it will make yours also!

Go get goose-pimples on your skin today xxx

Danielle x
Your Mind Coach

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600 Steps & 6 Tips to perform better!

600 Steps for 6 Tips on How to perform better!

Yesterday, I suffered a little :-)

I climbed up the infamous 600 steps at Glendalough on the Spinc walk, all so as to clear my head and gather my thoughts after a few busy days. Actually....I only suffered a little (at the start) the steps are very tough but once up and your panting has subsided the view is SPECTACULAR!
Here is a link to this if your interested http://www.wicklowmountainsnationalpark.ie/walkingtrails.html

The afternoon  was superb and I spotted Red Kites, rabbits, cranes, deer and Stags! Really incredible.

While walking I had a lot of time to reflect on life and puffing my way up those steps I got to thinking about motivation and how to improve performance.

Even I, caught myself a number of times saying to myself 'I cant, I cant', as I puffed my way up.
With all my training! What was this voice doing in my head??

BUT...I didn't stop and that's what counts. I noticed the voice, which dissolved its hold on me once it became conscious, (remember this!). So, I walked on and with each step I pondered more and more on how often we happen not to notice those unconscious influences...........

Pretty much ALL the time, unfortunately.

Because they don't come just from ourselves and our inner voice.
Yes, that voice that is now asking.. 'What voice...Do I have an inner voice?'

These influences are all around us and our unconscious and our visual cortex are constantly working and influencing and PRIMING your mind.

Let me give you an example of PRIMING.
Below are a few words with that have nothing to do with this newsletter -

• car
• gasoline
• petroleum
• mileage
• distance
• efficiency

Now fill in the blanks so as to complete the following word -   F _ _ L

Chances are that your brain chose a word related to the list above, even though there are many other possible alternatives!

Now ask yourself by going through the alphabet to consider other choices you could have selected. There are lots of possibilities but the priming effect very likely got your brain fixated on one that matched the previous words, right??

So what does this mean and more importantly how can this be actually useful to know???

Well, your unconscious is constantly picking up everything around (which it is) You may have heard me saying this before - your conscious mind picks up about 7 - 9 pieces of info while your unconscious processes billions at every moment.

So, while this is happening it is picking up all negative stuff also, yep??

For example - Say you read the daily paper. So your mind gets primed with words like these below - (which are actually taken from News’ headlines!)

• denounce
• fight
• die
• death
• sombre
• slain
• fears
• concerns
• dismissed
• defiant
• avoids
• risk
• pandemic

Okay, you've read this news in the morning and primed your brain with words like the above! What’s the priming effect???? What other thoughts, feelings or ideas are being pre-empted because they’re relative to the above? MMMM, How about.... 'Danger! I’m frightened! I need to play it safe and protect what I have! I can’t afford to take risks! etc etc...... 

Then you check your social media - facebook etc etc - Your friends are sharing the usual trivialities. What's the Priming effect??  How about.....'Not important. Wasting time. Boring. Pointless. Petty drama. Feeling inadequate. Jealousy.' ..... Your getting the idea now.

And its also in other stuff, not just words.

The messy office desk = 'Disorganised. Scatter brained. Not enough time. Confused.'
The quick fix Fast Food Dinner = 'Cheap. Don't deserve to look after myself. Fat Lazy.'

The list goes on and on....! So of course that would all demotivate you, right??

So HOW can YOU help yourself counteract all this stuff??

Here is what I came up with going up those steps :-)

6 Tips on How to Perform better!
(Ooooh yea in the bedroom also!!)

1) Keep a diary beside your bed and last thing at night and first thing in the morning (the best times) write down what you are grateful for. Get your mind focusing in the right direction!
Priming effect = 'Abundance. Opportunities. Gifts. Feeling lucky.'

2) First thing in the morning look at yourself in the mirror and say 'I love myself' plus anything else you want to add, like how incredible you are. Give yourself some love and if near a loved one have a cuddle!
This translates as Priming effect = Affection. I am loved. Happy. Feeling lucky (again)!

3) Leave little notes around and good WORDS. Leave some on the fridge, press, wardrobe and side of computer screen. Anywhere your unconscious will take it in. Write down words that relate to what you want to achieve - For example - Success. Focus. Clarity. Motivation. Energy.
Priming effect  = Yep! More of the above!

4) Keep your living and workspace clean, tidy and organized. Take pride in it.
Priming effect = Efficient. Professional. Focused. Motivated.

5) Take care of yourself. Take pride in your appearance and health.
Priming effect = I deserve this. I am worthy. Best. Quality. Pride.

6) Speak to yourself better! Dissolve the power of negative words you use by counteracting them with positive. Change - not to will. But to and. Stupid to smart. Ugly to beautiful. etc etc. Say it over and over and when you hear.... I cant - keep changing it to I CAN!
Priming effect = More motivation. Focus. Clarity. Drive. Ambition. Happiness, etc etc.....

I really hope you got this! Here are some more ways for you to Master your Mind! http://theblackbeltmastermind.com/the-top-7-ways-to-master-your-mind-for-success/

 And here is a bonus one just for you ....

7) Help others - Find your purpose and true meaning and surround yourself with its messages.
Priming effect = Driving Passion. Love. Purpose. Motivation. Empowered.Fulfilment.

So for that I will thank you, for you help me x

Once I discovered my purpose everything changed - Here is What NOT to do!

The Top things Unsuccessful people do! http://www.neurocombatives.blogspot.ie/

My Bootcamp on Saturday re inspired me and I have been receiving such beautiful emails from my wonderful new Blackbelt Masterminds. Thank you for being incredible x

My next Bootcamp is in October and my next NLP Practioner is in November!!! - Dublin -

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In the 'kind'time keep dreaming big and rocking this life!

Lots of love,

Danielle x
Your Mind Coach

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